10 relationship and sex educators you need in your Instagram feed

In sex educator Grace Alice Ó Sé’s recent dara & co masterclass on improving communication around sex, she challenged viewers to follow more sex-focused content creators on social media. Grace believes that this one small step can help us to passively learn about sex-positive communication, debunk some common myths surrounding sex, and ultimately, improve our relationships with ourselves and one another.

To help you on this mission to learn as you scroll, we have gathered 10 reputable experts on the topic of sex who are worth a follow if you’re interested in learning more about creating safe spaces for yourself and others. Among the creators, we have activists focused on the intersection of sexuality and disability, as well as those looking at how patriarchy and colonialism impact our sex lives, certified sex therapists, medical professionals, and experts on tackling shame.

Grace Alice Ó Sé

@grace_alice_oshea

If you have seen her masterclass, you’ll be familiar with Grace’s clear, straightforward, no-nonsense style. Hailing from Kerry, Grace is an occupational therapist, author, and trained sex educator and intimacy specialist who believes that everyone deserves a life filled with joy, pleasure and connection. She runs a landmark relationship and sex education (RSE) programme for schools called RSE & Me. Beyond social media, she provides one-on-one coaching sessions to individuals and couples, as well as coaching, workshops, courses and sex-positive education for adults. Check out her well-curated Instagram highlights for lessons on anatomy, the topic of vaginismus, relationships, pleasure, health and body image.

Cam Fraser

@thecamfraser

Cam Fraser is Australia’s leading men’s sex coach. He hosts the Men, Sex & Pleasure podcast which opens up discourse around masculinity and sexuality in the mainstream, spiritual, Tantra, and sacred sexuality communities. Every week, Fraser delves into all things related to masculinity and sexuality, while gleaning insights from a variety of guests including sex workers, male strippers, relationship coaches, psychosexual therapists, transgender educators and indigenous men. Fraser, who has shared his expertise in TEDx talks, offers courses and coaching for both men and women. One of his greatest areas of focus is helping people to overcome shame and improve their relationships.

Dr Caroline West

@drcarolinewest

Dr Caroline West is a lecturer, writer, media commentator and podcast host specialising in topics involving in sex, feminism, and the body. Outside of her podcast, Glow West, she regularly shares her expertise as a sex and relationships agony aunt for the Irish Independent and as a resident sexpert for dating app Bumble. Her PhD research focused on the experiences of women working in the American pornography industry, exploring themes such as stigma, violence and interactions with fans. Taking a more academic approach to things, Caroline seeks to create spaces for calm, informed conversations about sex, and is working to reduce the shame and stigma associated with sex in Ireland.

Dr Tanaya Narendra

@dr_cuterus

Dr Tanaya Narendra, better known online as Dr Cuterus, has numerous accolades including being named as one of the Top 25 Disruptors of India by Cosmopolitan in 2021, and Health Influencer of the Year by the IHW Council. Tanaya grew up with parents who worked as fertility doctors and had candid conversations about sexual health with her from an early age. She eventually went on to obtain a master’s degree in clinical embryology at the University of Oxford, and now she shares her expertise online. Narendra’s social media channels explore topics related to reproductive health such as period pain, polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS), HPV, and many other topics – all with the aim of countering misinformation.

Andrew Gurza

@andrewgurza6

Another useful expert to follow is Andrew Gurza, a creator who focuses specifically on the intersection of disability and sexuality. Andrew’s social media channels explore their experiences dating with a disability, while also highlighting the issue of ableism both in the queer community and in wider society. Andrew has contributed his expertise to BBC, Mashable, Out.com, Dan Savage’s Savage Love podcast and Cameron Esposito’s Queery. He also runs his own podcast, Disability After Dark, which has over 300 episodes. On top of using their platform to explore themes such as neurodivergence, internalised ableism, sex work and porn, Andrew is the founder of Bump’n, a sex toy company setting out to provide sexual health products and services for people with disabilities.

Todd Baratz

@yourdiagnonsense

Certified sex therapist Todd Baratz helps people improve their relationships and their sex lives. He has contributed to Men’s Health, NBC, Vice, Cosmopolitan, Vogue, and Glamour, highlighting his approach that centres on relational self-esteem. Todd believes that the significant relationships in our lives are our biggest source of joy. While that may be the case, we never receive any formal education on how to thrive in our relationships and connect with others as best we can, so he uses his platform to help change that. Outside of providing individual and couple’s counselling, Todd hosts a podcast called Your Diagnonsense which explores a broad range of topics tied to sex, love and pleasure including safety and coping, family trauma, non-monogamy and normalising therapy.

Dr Jannele Howell

@vaginarehabdoctor

Known online as the Vagina Rehab Doctor, Dr Janelle Howell is a pelvic floor therapist who aims to help individuals and couples to overcome vaginismus, vulvodynia, and painful sex through remote vaginal fitness coaching. Janelle uses her platform to explore how racism, stress and repression can impact vaginal health through entertaining and high-quality educational content. Much of Janelle’s content debunks common myths about hygiene, the anatomy and vaginal health more generally. While her area of expertise is the vagina, her work also addresses how sex is a two-way street and she hopes that her enlightening insights can reach everyone, not just those who have a vagina.

Dr Bima Loxley

@loxleysexology

Queer clinical sexologist Dr Bima Loxley offers inclusive and shame-free sex education online. They specialise in gender, sexual and relationship diversity (including navigating gender dysphoria, kinks and fetishes and queering your erotic identity); sexual function (such as levels of desire and arousal, inability to orgasm, infertility, sexual trauma and lack of sex education); and relationships (looking at relationship check-in and maintenance, infidelity and trust issues, mismatched desire, non-monogamy, and improving intimacy and connection). Bima’s work also explores the importance of non-sexual relationships in our wellbeing, and how friendships deserve – and require – as much work as romantic relationships.

Cassie Rattray

@radicallove.co.uk

Cassie Rattray is an award-winning sex educator, feminist podcast host and student nurse based in Liverpool. She runs the website RadicalLove.co.uk, where she explores queer rights, sex education, mental health and fertility. Cassie is the co-host of the award-winning podcast From Tops to Bottoms, in which she provides a humorous take on sexuality, feminism, BDSM, fatphobia and allyship. Much of her work focuses on RSE for schools and individuals, and her RSE services for schools in Liverpool ensure that the content delivered to students is inclusive of LGBTQ+ people and their unique needs.

Eva Bloom

@whatsmybodydoing

Last but not least, we have Eva Bloom, an award-winning queer sex educator and speaker who has educated more than 3 million people around the globe. Eva’s work sets out to help queer and trans late bloomers experience queer joy, better confidence and great sex. They provide a number of different online workshops, honing in on topics like how to have compassionate casual sex and how to romance yourself while cultivating joy and authenticity instead of shame. Eva has spoken all over the world at conferences and universities including Cornell University, the University of Toronto and the Guelph Sexuality Conference. They look at sex through a political lens, highlighting how ableism desexualises disabled people; how white supremacy robs Black people of their rest and pleasure; how cisheteronormativity demands that queer and trans people should be ashamed of their desires; and how fatphobia attempts to deny people pleasure.